Don’t bully me, monkey thought! How not to worry so much because it’s silly.


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Madi walks in all in a huff. She says “Lessia, I can’t take it anymore! My BFF’s being a bozo, my parents are being way unreasonable, I stink at math, I’m too fat and also my teacher…”

I stop her right there ’cause I’ve had enough. I say “Madi, I’ve had enough. You’re gettin’ to be a real snore. Do you realize that, for weeks now, every time you walk in for a singing session you’re in some kind of funk about this or that? Nothing’s ever okay by you anymore. Stop complaining so much. You’ve morphed into a boring teenager!”

Madi stares at me blanky. “Really?” I can see her thinking. “My drama isn’t interesting?” She looks confused.

“I can’t help it if my life’s a mess!” she says defiantly. But I point out “Your life isn’t a mess–your head is the mess, sweet pea. You’ve obviously got monkeys running around in that sweet cabesa of yours! You’re bullying yourself!”

To which she replies “I’ve got what? Monkeys? Hello? I do NOT have monkeys!”…..

long pause

“Anyway, what are monkeys?”

I explain: “Monkeys are those little worry thoughts inside your head–your “monkey mind.” We all get attacked by them sometimes but they’re nada. They’re just deflating thoughts that chatter on blah blah blah all day long feeding usĀ nonsense that isn’t even true. They’re bullies on the inside. Go figure. But why be so mean to yourself? I find it’s best to ignore them–just tune them out.”

Madi looks back at me thoughtfully–soaking in this new wisdom. Seems she’s having an “aha” moment.

Next week, Ms. Madi walks in all smiles for the first time in ages. Happily she announces “Lessia, I’ve been thinking about monkeys–and you’re right. I do have lots of monkeys blah blah-ing in my head. And what’s more–they’re super annoying! I’ve been talking back to them all week–and now I’m feeling a whole lot better. Thanks heaps–you’re some kind of genius!”

I bow modestly. She continues.

“I’m getting rid of all my monkeys now–I’m gonna be chill. And you know what else?” she says. “I’ve decided we should write a monkey song–to warn people!”

And so we did.

Here’s a bit of our Monkey tune and a whole lot of Madi explaining things as she remembers them…

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And forĀ younger classrooms–here are two of our own fourth grade students with their own version of what to do with a monkey thought!

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We’ve gotten into warning people about monkeys lately. Feels good to be helpful.

So don’t let your monkey thoughts bully you!

Please feel free to share your own monkey stories.

12 thoughts on “Don’t bully me, monkey thought! How not to worry so much because it’s silly.

    1. Lessia Bonn Post author

      Meatballs! I don’t see a reply under you comment. Hello? Could be spam fairies but in case I never spotted this when you posted–you are SO right! Truth! Middle school is a breading ground for monkeys. Oh, my. It’s monkey soup. Thanks for letting me know you like our concept/way of helping :-)

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  1. Silly Sam Productions

    Hello Lessia! I love your new blog, this is so creative! Mine is brand spanking new and still a work in progress, but you were right, Silly Sam needed one. I am really looking forward to keeping up with all of your adventures with your talented kiddos. Be seing you around town! Karen

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  2. Gabby Mom

    You go girl!! Monkeys are mischievous but not that bad. They can squirrel up things to make you sad. But just like kids that need good attention. These monkeys too are want to mention. Reel them in and feel some better. Altitude not attitude is the best way of life. It causes good moods and not such strife. Keep up the goodies and spread your wings. Coz’ positive reinforcement causes many good things. Love your song. Your cutsie…Auntie Gabby

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  3. Elissa Thompson

    I love this song, the story behind it and your blog. I was glad to find it, following links from the Edutopia article shared on Pinterest. I’ve saved links onto my boards for character curriculum and advisory that we use in morning meetings, brain breaks and MS advisory at our school. Thanks for making such a relatable resource — and putting your experiences with the girls into a format everyone can benefit from.

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